December 13, 2012
The Other L Word
I had a similar experience today in that I decided what to write my final post of 2012 on and then my clever metaphorical parallel for gayness was all over my computer screen this afternoon. I loaded up the Colbert Report from Tuesday night, as I’m liable to do at lunch while om-nom-nomming on a simple, yet exquisite Blue Express turkey sandwich. And Colbert’s in-character doing this bit about California’s ban on gay ‘conversion’ therapy, and he compares it to trying to ‘correct’ left-handedness. That’s what I was going to say!
Apparently it was not just me who was going to say it either, because browsing AfterEllen I found a pretty fantastic article called “What kind of parent would want a gay kid? The best kind.” about all the expectations parents form for their kids even before they’re born. The basic conclusion was that if a parent said something like, “Well, kiddo, you’re OK but I just really wish you’d come out a brunette rather than a ginger” most of us would agree that would be a pretty stupid and terrible attitude to have towards your child. And then there it was again, the writer, Lucy Hallowell, goes on to say, “Having a gay kid should be no different than having a kid with blond hair (maybe you were wishing for brown)…or left handed (because then you have to have a pair of those special scissors around the house).” Not just those scissors, but the pool of lecture desks available to you will be so much smaller. And you’ll probably smudge your paper while you’re writing.
Now I’m obviously not saying all the societal ramifications of being LGBT are tantamount to having to order a special pair of scissors. Hate crimes, bullying, discrimination, and LGBT suicides are extremely real. But I’d like to hold up the left-handed parallel, not as an accurate figurative representation of reality, but as a future ideal. As in I hope one day being gay will actually be like being left-handed. I think that would be a good place to be. I keep realizing, or re-realizing, that a few of my teammates are left-handed, and my primary response is, “Huh, I didn’t know you were left-handed” *moves on with day*. It’s just a sort of quirk, clearly not a handicap. But people used to go to great lengths to try to ‘fix’ left-handedness. The English word “sinister” is derived from the Latin for “left.” I’ll leave you with a scene that illustrates what this gay-as-left-handed reality could look like. It’s from the British show Skins, which has a fairly rabid cult following, especially revolving around the lesbian couple Emily and Naomi. Emily is standing at a bus stop in the freezing cold with her friend Thomas. She’s just borrowed his shoes.
EMILY: I'm gay, Thomas.
THOMAS: It's fine. Shall we call a taxi? I don't think this bus is going to come soon.
Besides, my feet are extremely cold.