Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)
Hey y'all. Sorry these are getting up so late. I've been traveling all day...but let's be real, you're all in Myrtle and so you haven't even noticed that these weren't up 12-hours ago.
And, while we're being real--can we just talk about
Reason #2710823 why Dr. Miranda Bailey is a totally bad ass and amazing strong woman who speaks nothing but The Truth:
"Okay, first of all, you do not need the law, or a priest, or your mother to make your wedding real.
And the church—the church can be anywhere you want it to be: in a field, on a mountain, right here in this room…anywhere. Because where do you think God is? He’s in you. He’s in me! He’s right here, in the middle of us.
Now, your church just hasn’t caught up to God yet. Your mother, she hasn’t caught up to God yet, and by the way, she may not ever catch up. But it’s okay. It’s okay.
If you are willing to stand up in front of your friends, and family, and god, and commit yourself to another human being—to give of yourself in that kind of partnership, for better or worse, in sickness and health, honey, that is a marriage. That is real. And that’s all that matters."
Also, 2011ers: The BDU Blog (this thing you're reading right now!) needs you to write our first ever set of senior posts! Reflect on your experiences at Duke and over these past four years for as long or as short as you want. You can sign it however you want, including anonymously. Find me (Risa) on facebook or email (firstname.lastname@example.org) if you're interested (which you are!).
Now, what you really care about, anonymous posts!
While studying for finals, a group of fratstars comes by hoping to find a place to study. They can't find a table, and so one says "Hey, let's be really gay and just make a circle with the chairs." I'm already taken aback, already agitated by what he said. But his friends didn't hear him, and so he repeats himself, same hate and all. They sit down, and another of the group's friends comes by and one says "Wow, you fruitcakes! You really have no idea how gay you look right now, sitting in that circle all gay" I'm so angry. Here I am, trying to study for finals, and all I can think about is how I absolutely loathe the culture that fraternities seem to breed on this campus. I know, they probably didn't "mean it that way" and that there are "tons" of gay males in fraternities, but in all seriousness, this derogatory language seems to be disproportionately used by members of Greek organizations on this campus and it frustrates me to no end.
Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over summer, too! If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).