July 18, 2011

Anonymous Posts (7.12.11-7.18.11)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.giffriend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

So. I spent last week leading a four day rock climbing and camping excursion. All things considered (read: monsoon season), the trip was a success.

I also had a great conversation with a (lesbian identified) visiting scholar about queer co-parenting and her family's dynamics. She is raising her daughter with a gay male couple (one of them is the biological father and she is the biological mother).

Today's women's world cup final game conveniently coincided with my day off from camp, meaning that I spent my day in town watching the US-Japan game. What an unlucky result (the US lost in PKs after scoring the first goal and later taking the lead again in overtime). Megan Rapinoe, a national team member who is publicly out of the closet (and who I met in 2009!), tallied an assist.

Now, for other important updates from readers like you!

Hi! So I just wanted to write in this week and say that while I have been happily out and open about my queer sexuality for a long time at Duke, I am just now starting to date a lot of different people who I´ve met. The catch? I'm spending this summer in a HUGE CITY in the U.S., and I have met so many queer individuals that I actually can't keep track of all these amazing people that I'm meeting. So this is just a gay PSA - take it from someone who has never been lucky enough to truly date at Duke, that there's no reason to get down on yourself if you can't find your husband or wife in Durham right now. Because as life goes on you'll have more control over your location and you'll hopefully be able to head out to larger cities-and finding larger LGBTQ communities in the area, and the beginning of a concept of "dating" that some of us never get to know at Duke (gay or straight).

From the modern, LGBT Dr. Seuss: You should not Grindr on a bus, You should not Grindr on a Gus. You should not Grindr here nor there, You should not Grindr anywhere.

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over summer, too! If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


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  2. 1. What you're saying on one hand seems quite obvious, but is something I've been ruminating on constantly in the past month, since I've been living in NYC. It's interesting how our choices in location can influence our ability to love whomever we desire as much as any social legislation or governmental influence.

    In large cities like New York and Los Angeles, the main obstacle is qualitative instead of quantitative. Carving new spaces for homosociality outside of the original spheres of sex (bars/clubs/bathhouses) and marginalization (activism groups, zines) is going to dramatically shape the development of a more liberated gay community & lifestyle.
    In the future, if I think cultivating romance is an important objective that can't wait until I move myself to a big city, is it possible that I might enroll in a gay university?

    2. It's funny because these two anonymous posts are actually related in my mind, because Grindr's functionality is maximized in big cities, where it gives you access to thousands of otherwise 'invisible' individuals.

    Grindr is my latest addiction. I've been working on a super lengthy piece on it that I probably won't get to finishing it until I'm back at Duke, (where Grindr basically loses its function)... but for now I'll just say that detractors had better have a better argument than, "just don't do it." :) :) :)

  3. The Tough Alliance?

  4. It's not a question of understanding it, man. If you feel it, you feel it, stupid.


  5. but Grindr is great :)