July 4, 2011

Anonymous Posts (6.27.11-7.4.11)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

I spent this past week leading a five-day kayaking and camping trip. It was so refreshing to talk with my campers about homophobia and LGBTQ rights stuff. They just Get It; I was so impressed. I can't even tell you. And when I explained to them that I'm open to the possibility of dating a girl, not one of them flinched. In fact, they thought it was really respectable that I was determined to be with whoever I fell in love with, regardless of that person's gender. So yeah, my campers Rock At Life. Our first session actually ends today, though, so now it's back to square one.

In other news, the US Women's National Soccer Team has advanced to the quarterfinals in the World Cup! They earned the top spot in Group C after beating Korea and Colombia by a combined five goals (and giving up none).

Now for anonymous posts!

so here's the deal. I'm a queer-identified women and I'm all about some flannel shirts and other kinds of button-ups usually worn by men. they're just SO comfortable. How do the rest of you feel about rocking this kind of clothing as a women? do you find it TOO stereotypical? do you avoid it *because* it's stereotypical? I used to, but now I'm thinking... heck, if I like it, there is really no reason not to wear it...

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over summer, too! If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


  1. haha, flannel is awesome! well first off, I think it totally rocks that you're obviously a strong and confident enough woman to not be too concerned about what others around you think. it's great that you just do your own thing!

    sometimes I embrace the lesbian stereotypes (although it's a shame to have any to begin with, right?), and I sort of just have fun with the fact that I'm playing with stereotypes. (and then you bump into the fellow stereotypical lesbian in the street and acknowledge each other. haha, I'm kidding, but you get the idea!) Although in all seriousness, I think in my experience, it's sort of fun at times-but more often than not I do actually try and avoid it, for fear of being placed in a box. good luck! keep rocking whatever style you love.

  2. I identify as straight and if my boyfriend didn't need his flannel shirts for work I would wear them out all the time - I wear them around the house whenever I can. I had never thought about it as a stereotypically lesbian thing, although I suppose it is. I personally wouldn't assume you were queer because you were a woman wearing flannel. Maybe I'm the exception to the rule and most people think of flannel as a lesbian identifier, I have no clue, but regardless, I think you should just do what makes you happy. :)