February 25, 2013

Anonymous Posts (2.18.13-2.25.13)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

Hey y'all! After roughly a month of no Anonymous Posts, we got a bunch this past week. We hope you enjoy reading them, and keep sending them in!

Yo it was totally cool of the athletics department to bring in the You Can Play people to talk to all the first year athletes about homophobia in sport, but it was totally not cool of the You Can Play people to be super sexist and a lil homophobic themselves. The platform where three recently graduated college athletes, two gay men and a bisexual woman, talked about their experiences coming out as athletes was a really good idea and I think it made more of an impact on people than just having someone get up and talk about the possibility of there being gay people in the sports world, but that one guy was a real a-hole (and the guy who was in charge wasn't the most professional either). Laughingly telling a roomful of freshmen that you decided to fuck your girlfriend a lot senior year to try and convince yourself you were not gay and later following to say you feel bad for straight guys cause you get tired of listening to girls talk when you have to talk to them at bars or that all the girls in a gay bar would want you if you were the one straight guy there sort of seems like you might be shitting on girls a little bit. But let's all really be respectful of one another! Really! Also when you make sidelong comments about "aggressive" gay people at a pride parade it seems like you're not really helping your cause. But no worries, "If You Can Play (and you're a bro) You Can Play"

I am really into this guy, but he's in a fraternity and not completely out. I'm not sure how to go about asking him out when I'm not 'supposed' to know he's gay in the first place. The thing is, I see him all over campus (BC, gym, plaza, bus stop) and I really want to engage him in a conversation, but I'm not sure how. What should I do?

It makes me sad that there have been no anonymous posts in a month!!!!

http://www.dukechronicle.com/article/column-my-image-me-versus-my-image-gay Almost 10 years later it looks like many of us face this same identity crisis.

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over breaks and throughout the school year. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


  1. #1 I totally feel you on this one. I helped produce Duke's "You Can Play" video and was a bit discouraged after meeting Patrick Burke in person and listening to the YCP presentation. I recognize that the project is a step in the right direction, but if you are going to do LGBT advocacy, you have to really want to do it, and I thought Patrick was simply wanting to continue the work of his brother rather than wanting to do it himself. The whole thing sent mixed messages about various identities people use, didn't treat important LGBT issues with the sensitivity they deserve, came off as sexist, and relied too much on crude humor. There were some bright spots, but I definitely plan on giving them some critical feedback and am now more interested in looking at other projects to get involved with. If you want to chat before I send them feedback feel free to touch base with me, I'd love your input (jrm50@duke.edu).

  2. Why haven't any anonymous comments been posted? I smell censorship...

  3. Anonymous, I can assure you that only spam comments have been censored. There have been no Anonymous comments received to this post that were not spam.