February 16, 2010

Anonymous Posts

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)

You guys. You guys.

This weekend was the GLBT & Ally Retreat for students from Duke, UNC and NC State. It was pretty much The Greatest Thing, and everyone involved in organizing the event deserves TREMENDOUS credit. Solidarity is important in any social movement let alone our own and I'm confident that we made a ton of progress this weekend in forging an unprecedented relationship among the three schools. We all adore Lady Gaga and apparently know every word to Seasons of Love, so I really don't think any differences need reconciling. Nothing stands in our way!

We plugged the blog at the retreat, and I know some of the non-Dukies have visited already. Welcome! I hope y'all participate as much in the comments section and anonymous posts as everyone else! We want to hear what you all have to say!

Anonymous posts for this week, y'all (sorry they're a day late!):

I think I may be falling for her, but I can't tell if she's doing the same. And to that end, I'm not sure if I'm truly crazy about her, or if I just think about her all the time because I need something to occupy my thoughts.

I'm not sure if either of us is even ready for this, or if taking this to the next step is the right thing.

The only thing I know for sure is.....that she's too important to mess up.

I wish there was more of a guideline for this same-sex relationship stuff.

[Ed. Note: A theme I think we've seen among many anonymous posts is a comparison between straight and same-sex couples. A lot of readers seem to feel that there is a difference between the two when it comes to "what should I do?" or "what is appropriate?" Personally, I disagree and believe that the answers to these questions are really the same for gays or straights. At the same time, I am a dumb 20 year-old that was incredibly giddy that this was a group on facebook and joined immediately. What do I know! Readers, whuddya gotta say?]

1 comment:

  1. I don't think same sex relationships HAVE to be different, but I get that there may be differences. I don't know if this is where this poster is coming from, but individuals in same sex couples may still be dealing with coming out, coming to terms with their sexuality, etc. This is something that most straight couples don't have to navigate and I can understand how having to deal with those personal issues can change the dynamics of a relationship. Straight people also have the luxury of assuming that the person they're crushing on is also straight (whether that's a fair assumption or not is a different story). So forget about figuring out if that person is into you if you don't even know if she's into girls (in this poster's case). Putting yourself out there in terms of telling someone you like them seems to be a difficult enough task without having to simultaneously come out to them. I will say that one similarity, however, is that both straight and gay couples have to communicate about what they're comfortable with intimiately.

    Just some thoughts. I don't know if this is where the poster is coming from and so I could be totally off base.