May 22, 2010

Uh... Everyone needs to see these videos: (via Aliza and Billy!) OK, so this first one from the TV show "What Would You Do" (which has changed a bit since I first saw it in the 90's) where gay parents and their children are refused a meal at a Brooklyn restaurant, and we watch as Society completely fails Us. "Fuck that, I'm hungry!" - Society. Whatever. How do we feel about this show, Community? I have mixed feelings.

Thank you to the people who said something? I think? I don't know. This show kind of lauds people who do kind of duh things. "Some would say that makes you a hero." Really? Well some people need to go to Definitions School. Anyhow. Let's all watch this other video of a gay proposal. It'll be worth it, Readers. I promise!


  1. I totally agree with you on the fact that yeah, people should do this anyway. I think the point of this was to show that people don't always do the duh thing. A few people might, but most will just ignore it and move on. So in that sense, I really do applaud the people that spoke up. They had the heart to do something when almost everyone else just sat there. I really do wish that everyone would speak up about any form of intolerance. It's depressing to see that most people don't. Also, it might be a duh thing to those of us in the Community because speaking out against intolerance is something we do on a daily basis whereas others who aren't as involved might not have the same immediate response that we do. So, I do say thank you to them. I hope they are an example to everyone else to do the right thing.

  2. Alright Mr. Editor, here is what i think.

    Yes, the fact that something as simple to us as a "gay couple" is on a show such as "what would you do" is unfortunate, and in my opinion appalling. But it is still important to acknowledge that we do live in a homophobic society, and there are millions of people who not only disagree with homosexuality, but also have never even seen discrimination first hand (even by the perpetrators themselves--since they probably see their own prejudice as normal). The truth is that yes, discrimination happens all the time, even in restaurants like we saw in the video.

    With that being said, i agree with the editor: for the people who stood up and said something, good for them. But it is a "duh" thing to us, and it shouldn't be seen as heroic because it should be seen as the standard response. But to outsiders, so-called "tolerants," even those that don't consider themselves homophobic, standing up and saying something is out of their norm, especially since it's "not their business."

    I agree, it is unfortunate that standing up to a bigoted/homophobic person (especially if you are a witness) should be a given. But in this society it is not. I like the show for doing this segment. Because we do need to be reminded of the struggles that lay ahead of us, especially being outside of the bubble at Duke. Nonetheless, the show, in my opinion, gives off hope. There ARE people who are willing to fight for us, and there ARE people who will be at our side. It is so easy sometimes to be a victim and only think of the bad. As the video showed, there are definitely people on our side. And we cannot forget that.

    Also, i hope the people who stood up in the video inspire others to stand up. Whether it's being a different race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, religion, etc., if you see an act of discrimination, STAND UP. Say something. speak out. Any injustice or prejudice deserves to be condemned. It can be very hard to do do that sometimes, and when it is, think about if you were in that person's shoes. Standing up for someone can make the world to them. Challenge yourselves.

    As for the proposal, that was just beautiful. word do not even describe that video.

  3. Going off of Andrei's comment: I think it's important to emphasize that what seems "duh" in theory not always "duh" in practice. While the man's "heoric" action should be seen as the standard response, it did take confidence and poise to not only speak constructively to the waiter but to ask to speak with the manager. While the other allies spoke out, they did so in ways that were far less effective.

    Even the most dedicated LGBT people and allies admit they don't speak out when they hear a homophobic slur or see someone being harassed. The most open-minded and tolerant people sometimes do not speak out when they see injustice. Most people just want to go about their day and not cause trouble. I know that if I saw an LGBT family being discriminated against I would probably do something because I'm a lesbian and LGBT issues are my issues.

    But....What would we do if we saw a Muslim or Middle Eastern person being harassed by a waiter? What about someone who appeared to be homeless? A disabled person? A transwoman or transman? Someone who you thought was an illegal immigrant? The list goes on. Don't for a second assume that you would speak out. Don't assume that if you did speak out it would be in a constructive, non-violent manner and that you would follow it with meaningful action.

    Also, the proposal made me cry.

  4. Both videos made me cry. I think they're both wonderful.