Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)
I read this list of the top 15 out celebrities and was so excited to see that there were (basically) equal numbers of men and women. And then it came up that there were no people of color...which is just like, REALLY!? smh.
OMG DID YOU SEE LARAMIE THIS WEEKEND!?! This weekend was opening weekend for The Laramie Project. I went Saturday night and was so incredibly moved by the performance. For those of you who don't know, The Laramie Project sheds light on all different aspects of Matthew Shepard's murder. This coming weekend is the last chance to catch the show. Performances are Thursday the 14th, Friday the 15th, and Saturday the 16th, all at 7:30PM, and Sunday the 17th at 2:00PM. Student tickets are $5 and can be bought at the door. Help them sell out their final shows!!
ALSO, this Friday is the 15th Annual Day of Silence. Sponsored by the Gay, Lesbian, Straight Education Network (GLSEN) DoS calls attention to the bullying and harassment of LGBTQ youth, whose voices are silenced everyday in our schools. [Fun Blue Devil Fact: Did you know that Duke alumna Madelaine Adelman is on the national board for GLSEN?] You can participate by pledging to be silent for all or part of the day and by wearing red. Be sure to have a card with an explanation prepared so that when someone asks you about it, you can explain without talking (tricky, tricky)! Blue Devils United will be tabling throughout the week and continuing our ever-famous poster campaign. Get your picture taken after Wednesday's BDU meeting (6pm, LGBT Center) and tell us what you're silent for!! This year, I'm silent for my Uncle Malcolm. Check back later this week for his story--a story my family is all too silent about.
Update: The last Blue Devils United meeting of the year is this Wednesday at 6pm in the LGBT Center. [We'll have a blog specific meeting sometime in the near future, so be on the look out.]
Lots of anonymous posts this week, yo! Good work!
I'm thinking about how awesome fantasy books are! Especially for bookish chicks like me who somehow never noticed their feelings until they were suddenly in college...anyway, I wanted to give a shout out to authors like Megan Whalen Turner, Robin McKinley, and the sadly deceased Diana Wynne Jones. My inner life would have been so lonely without being able to read the strong, interesting, fleshed out, attractive and most importantly COURAGEOUS women characters. Those books and authors (like Spindle's End, The Queen of Attolia, Sunshine, Rose Daughter, Deep Secret, and Hexwood.) The girls aren't necessarily gay (although with some of them you can kind of read between the lines) but it's cool to have a fictional person you can fall in love with and get practice that way. It's a little bit of practice before the real thing. Anyway, that's what i wanted to say. =)
This blog gives such a false impression of what the community is like. Criticism is also a way of bettering the community, you know - maybe you shouldn't automatically silence these voices.
So I came to DUke almost 100 percent sure that I was a lesbian. Later in changed to asexual and now I'll be ending my freshman year having absolutely no idea. This isn't how I envisioned my first year of college. I thought I'd have things figured out and a gf or bf by now. Is this the next 3 years of my life here or will things change?
First off, I don't go to Duke, but that doesn't make reading this blog any less great. I'm in the closet (very in the closet), and I don't have any intention of coming out in the near future. There are a lot of things hard to reconcile in this type of situation. I don't think I'll come out until I have a boyfriend, "I'm gay... this is my boyfriend." Otherwise, there is just a constant pressure to change lifestyles and other than being in the closet nothing about how I act or what I do will change when I come out. It is almost impossible to meet guys while in the closet except for over the internet, but I hate that. "This is my boyfriend... we met on craigslist." So if I don't want to come out until I'm with some one, and I can't find anyone while in the closet except on the internet, and I don't like entertaining the idea of having a significant relationship with someone I met over the internet, what am I to do? I play the waiting game.
I'm finally in my first relationship with a man that I love, but I can't rid myself of a lingering crush. Whenever I see him I get confused again. Does this mean I shouldn't be with the guy I'm dating? Is it okay to have other crushes?
I wanted to say check out the It Gets Better Video made by the American Institute of Bisexuality and posted at the link below by the Bisexual Resource Center. http://biresource.net/
Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). Don't be surprised if you see these resources listed in following weeks.