February 13, 2012

Anonymous Posts (2.6.12-2.12.12)

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I'll keep it short and to the point. It was a great week for Duke's Basketball teams (yeah, plural) and for marriage equality!

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Now, for notes from OC.

#1
So, when are We taking a group trip to JCPenney? For real though, it's so cool to have this kind of news about positive and affirming corporations, among lots of other sad news about companies (i.e. chick filet last year) being anti-gay

#2
Sort of in reaction to the “Throwback Thursday”— I think it’s really sad that gay guys aren’t a more visible presence at Shooters. I totally get and respect that there are a lot of people for whom the hook-up and "club" scenes just aren’t their thing, but there are also a lot of gay guys at Duke who are into gay clubs and random hook-ups but avoid Shooters or else go to Shooters and just stand around or dance with their girl friends. I think it’s a shame that hookups are happening through Grindr and random 2 AM “hey” texts instead of people going out and letting things happen more organically while having fun with their gay and straight friends. Also, I think greater Shooters visibility would go a long way towards making closeted guys more comfortable in feeling that if they were to come out, they wouldn’t be giving up large parts of their social lives and Duke experience. I definitely think that if when I was younger I had seen pairs of guys dancing and making out at Shooters, I wouldn’t have felt, to the degree I did, that coming out would be a dead end that my existing Duke life couldn’t adapt to without major sacrifices.I've heard of gay freshmen who were completely out in high school but hide the fact that they're gay at Duke because they want to join a frat, yet I've also never heard of a single bad experience from a guy in a frat coming out, and I seriously doubt that an openly gay guy would be at a disadvantage during the rush process (especially if he brought hot girl friends to events.... not that this dynamic is necessarily good). I think this fear of being out is because of a lack of visibility that makes the two lifestyles seem mutually exclusive.

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3 comments:

  1. #1 - "my haters are my motivators" - luv it

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  2. #2 - Obviously it would be nice to see more gay couples dancing at shooters. The more you can infuse those type of interactions into mainstream Duke culture, the better in my opinion. That necessitates people being awfully comfortable with their sexuality though. I'm just as out as you can be, willing to hold my gf's hand walking down the bc or whatever, but asking me to dance in the middle of that sleazy metropolis is asking quite I lot.

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  3. #2-So I guess the best thing possible for gays is to saddle up and ride, Shooters style? What is it about the hook up culture there that makes it any more "valid" than the hook up culture of Grindr at 2am? Is it because it's more normative? Sometimes I wish people thought more about "normal" things like Shooters rather than saying "Hey! Shooters is a normal thing! If we want gay to be a normal thing, we should do normal things." Normalizing gay is not the way to free gay people. Also--I think that simplifying the coming out issue to something like seeing a couple queens bravely dry humping at shootz is a bit reductionist, right? Also--"and I seriously doubt that an openly gay guy would be at a disadvantage during the rush process (especially if he brought hot girl friends to events...." ????!!!???? Come on.

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