Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)
Hey Blue Devils (and other readers)! It's Risa again...Chris is pretty busy doing the whole second semester senior thing in addition to working on other things for the blog and The Center (READ: TOMORROW NIGHT'S LGBTQA DISCUSSION GROUP AT 6:30 PM IN THE LGBT CENTER), so I offered to help with this week's anonymous posts.
I hope everyone had a fantasically fun spring break. I'm a sports nut, so it's only fair that I plug teams other than our two basketball programs who swept the ACC Championships! Therefore, while we were taking time off from Duke, awesome Duke athletes were representing our school at indoor track and field nationals [shout to Duke's SEVEN newest All Americans...that's a big number, y'all].
Also, I randomly found this cool blog earlier today. It's called College Women Speak and some Carolina students started it. It's a forum for women to share anything they want about their sexual experiences in an anonymous way. I'd encourage any reader of this blog to contribute and help rep queer women's experiences (and allies, too, of course!). Some posts already touch on same-sex sex, but more can't hurt...right? Right. #IWishIWasChrisPerry
Finally, it's Pi Day. Betcyha didn't know that I can recite the first 20 digits of Pi. But I can. Andddd, conveniently enough, we have 3.14 anonymous posts below :-P.
this had to be shared (link) [Moderately NSFW]
Firstly, I’ve had an awesome and relaxing spring break and hope everybody has had the same! I also hope that I’m not the only one writing on this blog instead of being outside enjoying the beautiful weather, but that’s not the point. Anyway, I’m writing this in response to a question I got recently, and I get asked A LOT: Why are you in ROTC if they kick out gay people? Every one of my (now ex) boyfriends has asked me that question, as if maybe there’s something wrong with me for being a gay man who is pursuing a military career. I feel like anytime I tell somebody that I’m gay and mention the ROTC thing, they always make a comment about “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” and how “courageous” I am or something irrelevant like that. It’s not that I’m tired of being asked about it, I just hate being put into this box where I have to be the token gay guy in what is an obviously homophobic environment who is always having to either defend myself or the military because of a two decade old law. I hate how people label me as a gay guy doing something normal instead of a normal guy who also happens to be gay. I feel like I should just go ahead and answer the question so that nobody else has to ask. So, why do I want to serve even though the military has a policy against openly gay people serving? How ‘bout we forget about the whole gay thing and just go with why I want to serve period. I love my country, and I’m not afraid to admit it. I love the freedom and opportunity I am guaranteed here, and I love all the good that the people of this nation stand for. Is the USA perfect? Hell no, we have problems everywhere you look—especially when it comes to gay rights. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t feel like a part of my community. It doesn’t mean that I’m not proud to be who I am, whether that means I’m gay, American, white, male, whatever. For me, the uniform means more than just an excuse to dress up in camo (and look good I might add) on Tuesdays and Thursdays, it means sharing a connection with the brave men and women who go overseas and sacrifice everything for people they don’t even know and ideals they may not fully understand. When I put on my uniform and see my last name sewn onto the shirt, I feel so honored to have been given the opportunity to help protect this land that I love. Not for one second do I ever think about the fact that I’m a man who is attracted to other men. The point I’m trying to make here is that it’s unfair to label me as being an exception for doing what I’m doing. My sexuality has nothing to do with my ambitions, and everyone here, I hope, will agree that there is no way in hell any of us should ever let who we are get in the way of realizing our dreams. Yes I’m gay, and yes I’m in ROTC, but who really cares? I’m doing this because I feel like this is my purpose in life, not because of who I’m attracted to. So please, don’t put me into a box or give me a label because there’s so much more to me than one word and an acronym.
Hi guys... Hope everybody's doing well! So, I actually spent my spring break with an order of nuns (the Sisters of St. Joseph, Philadelphia, PA), and I had the wonderful opportunity to get to know these people (shameless plug for the Christian community: I came out to three of the Sisters individually and only got the "O.O" look before they asked something along the lines of "So, do you like cooking?" xD) I kept a journal over the course of the trip, and as I'm really interested in people (outside of gender studies, even!) I wanted to see how these three girls who pledged to a sorority would say... I'm not into Greek life at all, so I don't remember if it was a social or honors sorority. But the really cool thing was, the more I started to talk to them (and I talk rather rapidly, so they did a good job just *listening* to me without tuning me out) the more I found out we really had a lot in common. There's an inspirational song that kind of sums up my experience: it's called "We" by Joy Williams. Go check it out, and I hope it makes you smile. ~ Summer is coming, blue devils.
Hey shockingly large portion of the gay community at Duke, Why are you still walking around with your Chick-Fil-A bags?
1. Is it because you are unaware? Google it. (link)
2. Is it because you think minority groups can't make a difference through boycotting? Don't tell that to the civil rights movement generation. (link)
3. Is it because you just don't care that much? Did you get upset over this? Or how do you feel when your rainbow flag "disappears"? What if you lost a job because you were gay, and there is no legislation in place to protect you?
4. Is it because you are apolitical, or think things that are outside your Duke bubble don't affect you? Didn't you experience joy because of this? Or have you thought of how many people this would affect? (NC marriage ban that *could* come to a popular vote WHILE YOU'RE STILL HERE AND CAN VOTE ON IT!!!)
Every person who rides the C1 is affected by political messages. Every person also has the ability to paint new ones, or paint over them. I'm not saying that you should necessarily boycott Chick-Fil-A, but please, for the sake of our community, make up your mind before it's accidentally made for you. No matter what your beliefs may be, at least reconcile your actions and beliefs, and give it some serious thought. Sincerely, Concerned