Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)
I think it's safe to say that Friday saw a most colorful, dancey and successful Coming Out Day. Everybody really stepped up to help set up in the morning and then stuck around to hand out tee shirts (or, in Justin Harris' case, to throw stress hearts at random, unsuspecting passerbys (passerbies?)). I didn't hear any complaints about the music, which I'm pretty proud of. The LGBT demo is a tough crowd when it comes to song selection, and I was necessarily meticulous with my choices. I got away with playing just one Britney song (I'll admit "Stronger" is pretty awesome) and, like, Beyonce's entire catalogue. Probably the most fun I've had in a very long time, so thanks to Megan Weinand for letting me DJ, not to mention organizing the entire event!
In other news! The second Women Loving Women discussion group will be held tomorrow from 6-8 PM in the Center, and this Monday'll see the second LGBT discussion group of the semester that I'm co-facilitating for the Center. There were so many people there last time, it'd be awesome to see just as many if not more this time around. As I said after last meeting, we're thinking of breaking up into smaller groups when a thousand people show up on Monday? Maybe that'd be more conducive to a more intimate, personalized discussion?
Also, uh, this dropped today:
You crazy for this one, Gays. Though it's kind of weird to hear a 9 year old talk about haters.
Anyway! Anonymous posts for the week, Everyone.
I just have something that I need to get off my chest.
I'm a first year student here at duke, and I was thrilled when I realized that the gay community is as strong as it is. I know I definitely chose the right school. However, to me, the 'hook-up' culture here is somewhat disturbing. I feel like within the first few weeks, the gay community as a whole acted like a ravenous pack of sex-deprived animals. I couldn’t go a day without hearing news of a new hook-up after any number of the scandalous parties here. Eventually, as the excitement depleted and classes started getting harder, the community either hitched up with a single mate, or became content with their lack thereof. I am, in no way, complaining about what I presume to be a current state of dormancy. I am wondering, however:
Is it just me, or has the rate or amount of hook-ups generally gone down since O-week?
I love the acceptance that I've found at Duke when being perceived as a lesbian. There are so many resources here and such a vibrant community for queer women that if I were gay and female, I know I would be happy. But here's the rub: I'm not a lesbian, I'm pre-transition. Where are all the trans folk? It's strange, in a place with so much acceptance and tolerance for GLB men and women, to still feel like I'm the only one like me.
I'm an ally who's begun to realize that my group of friends here wouldn't accept me if I were gay. As many times as I tell them "that's gay" isn't an acceptable insult, or any kind of insult at all, nothing changes, and at this point my telling them it's not okay is becoming a joke to them. I'm a junior and it feels like it's way too late in the game to make any changes (as I've been actively trying to for a long time) and I'm wondering if this is just the way Duke is for some people. It's hugely important to me not to let the issue go, but at what point do I just give up on my friends and spend the next two years in the library?
So, there's all this news about DADT enforcement halting (link) and the injuction from the 9th district, but apparently SLDN is still advising servicemembers to stay in the closet, claiming we're "still in a vulnerable place." So, my question is, how much longer do I have to wait before I can act on my God given right to snog in front of the Chapel in broad daylight? Can I go do that right now? Because that would be cool.
What do you do if you've tried to be part of the community, but you just don't fit in?