November 16, 2009

Anonymous Posts

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)

Every time I log in to Facebook, this kid has a new status up. There's something about each one he posts that catches my attention. Either one of his friends has changed it without his knowledge so that it reads "_____ loves dick" and his friends join in with equally ignorant comments, or he's gone back and changed his status to say that the person who wrote the previous status "actually loves dick," or his friends have tried to insult a poetic or emotional status by simply writing "fag." under it. I truly do not understand these people. I am offended. What would you guys do in this situation?

Anonymous message to BDU, from an outsider:

Dear BDU,

I really appreciate everything you do to increase visibility of the gay community at Duke. Please know that there are more of us than just meets the eye. I am a 110% lesbian student here at Duke, although my looks and actions would never indicate my status as a minority sexuality. Yet although I lack the courage that you all have to come out, I am still very grateful for the way you promote gay rights and visibility on campus (and elsewhere), via activism and your programming. I am slowly taking small steps to coming out, and it's a hard process, (I know I'm preaching to the choir with that one), but I think that having this blog with a daily post to read-and perhaps relate to and even connect with-will be just one more beneficial push in the right direction: outside of the closet.

Thank you for this new blog and all of your work,

- A gay female undergrad sophomore at Duke

[Ed. Note: This last post made us feel all fuzzy inside, thanks for your kind words!]


  1. In response to #1: I've definitely seen this, too. In fact, in my freshman chem class I had a huge crush on someone that sat in front of me (read: that I sat behind). When I found him on facebook, his info actually said "Interested in Men." I was elated to find someone else that was gay on campus after having come up empty my first couple of weeks. Further inspection of his profile made it clear that he was straight, though, and this was the joke of one of his friends that had hacked into his account. Awesome. As trivial as it may seem (or as obvious - no gay man would EVER wear those jeans), that stung. A lot. I'm still kind of bothered by it, actually. So I'm glad that this contributor brought this up.

  2. I've seen it too. I recall after one in particular, I congratulated the kid and told him he could always talk to me about anything. It probably wasn't the ideal response...

    It's really disappointing to me that people find this hilarious--is this just considered to be the worst thing someone could modify about another's profile to easily wreak havoc? I think it makes people not take seriously the fact that there are gays and lesbians among the general population and that they very much are a part of society.

    Don't even get me started on meatspin, another common response to unattended computers...