March 19, 2012

Anonymous Posts (3.13.12-3.19.12)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

So...March Madness is upon us. And depending on if you follow teams other than Duke and tournaments other than the men's (which you should)...we're still going! #DWB4LYFE (copyright DW and DUMB).

In other news, Duke celebrated Holi on Friday and it was colorful and great. And Durham celebrated the one year anniversary of "Marry Durham," which was fabulous and very LGBTQ and Allied and full of great signs like "If the Amendment Passes, I couldn't Marry Durham."

Also...tomorrow night is the Our Lives Discussion Group at 6pm! All students--LGBTQQ and Allies are welcome! And don't forget that Blue Devils United is having elections for the 2012-2013 executive board on Wednesday! 6pm! Be there. Run for stuff. Vote. Yay!

In other other news...notes from OC!

I'm kinda closeted, but i kinda this guy is cute and seems cool... one problem... i've never actually met him and he is a year older.. i'd go up and introduce myself, but what kind of person does that so randomly? what do i do?!

I just want to come out to all my friends that I'm straight. I'm pretty sure no one ever really thought I was gay but the way I acted, it was probably confusing. At first it felt like the strong bond that the LGBT community has was only for people who are gay or questioning so I pretended that I am just to fit in. The way I am, if someone assumes something about me, I usually pretend that I am just to avoid any awkwardness so that also contributed to the confusion. I wonder if there is a line that allies shouldn't cross at the center. Maybe the faculty reception is only for out people or WLW and M2M really has no place for someone who just wants to hang out and make friends. As an ally, there's always a question of how much involvement is appropriate or how much am I apart of the community. There's a friend that I really need to come out to because he's convinced (by me) that I'm gay. But before I do that, I guess it's just an anonymous coming out.

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over breaks and throughout the school year. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


  1. #1 You could always try to put yourself in a situation where you have to be introduced to him if that makes any sense. Maybe you have a mutual friend or are going to the same mixer or event or something. Or inadvertently bump into him or sit next to him on the bus and strike up dull conversation. Get creative in opening that initial door.

  2. #1: Just do it! You can at least make friends with him. If he's as awesome as he seems (I'm guessing online?), he'll give it a shot. :)

    #2: Coming out is tough in any situation, but if you think your LGBT friends will react badly, you're so wrong. At least, I hope they realize that you're still the same person they love, gay or straight. <3

  3. #1: are you friends on facebook? a quick facebook chat may facilitate future dialogue. good luck!

  4. #2-- Actually, you stole my post.

    I really don't have anything to say except that I kind of agree.

    However, I believe personally that sexuality shouldn't matter at all. So I generally try to avoid the topic completely...I don't know if any of you reading this would agree with that, but that's how I feel.

    The reason I do kind of agree with your post is that I agree it is extremely awkward when people make the wrong assumptions about you. (I know I said before sexuality shouldn't matter, but I do recognize that to other people it does.) And I always notice that in a BDU meeting, the number of allies is significantly lower than it should be. Just a comment.

  5. #1- just try to run into him and make small talk. if you smile a lot and act a certain way, he'll probably get it

  6. #1, @anon 12:50 PM, don't do the random facebook chat before you've even met. Creepy. You'll turn him away.