June 1, 2010

Anonymous Posts

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)

Glee was kind of whatever tonight, Readers. #amiright? Schuester is The Worst and his plot line continues to be tedious, uninteresting and as of tonight very ?. What, exactly, was he doing to Sue? Is that something that adults who are ADULTS do? Is that even what a protagonist does? It was not even necessary to break that large trophy. That was a kind of an impetuous and childish thing to do. He should meet up with a teacher at the school that can teach him sentences. And then he can use those, instead of slow clapping and devil-hornsing to communicate his awfulness.

I hate so much about the things that he chooses to be.

Also, do not say that white women cannot have soul and then have a white woman not have soul. That is not how to prove that! It is the opposite, really, of how to prove that. As Chris Purcell, The Greatest, points out, they probably should have just replayed this.

Anyhow! /rant. There are anonymous posts to be read! I see you, UNC!

Please sign this petition in support of the asylum application of Iranian LGBT film director, Kiana Firouz. Her application was recently rejected and she risks deportation to Iran, where her homosexuality is condemned. Thank you.

My first year of college had its ups and downs- at the start of the first semester, I hadn't come out to anyone but my mom. That's how it was until late September- when I realized that the anxiety I was feeling was directly related to the fact that I felt completely trapped. I spent long hours on the phone talking with my mom about how I felt such a strong need to come out but was simply terrified. I explained to her that I couldn't make friends for fear of judgement. I wanted to meet people who would just accept my sexuality, and that would be that. At this point, I had no idea just how open-minded my campus was, overall. Through my own fear of judgement, I was pre-judging the student body, which I'm sure kept me from forming some great friendships earlier on.

On October 1st, 2009, I went to UNC's LGBT center to talk to a counselor about my fears of coming out to my close friends and family, and how important it was for me to tell them. This was one of the best decisions I've made, I believe, in my life. Simply expressing my feelings to someone other than my mother for the first time gave me the courage to start the coming out process. I was met with nothing but acceptance and support over the next few months, and will forever be grateful and thankful for that. Second semester, once scheduling conflicts went away, I was able to get more involved with the LGBT community and events on campus. I was able to formulate the friendships I was longing for first semester, both inside and outside the LGBT community- no longer lacking that confidence I had lost after high school and no longer feeling as though I was carrying a burden.

Somewhere throughout my initial coming out process, my sister said to me- "Don't be so quick to judge the openness of others. You may be surprised."

She was right.


  1. #2 - I completely agree...it's such an important lesson to learn but also something really easy to forget. I think I go through phases of remembering it. =) I once heard someone say that we all have a "double standard" for our friends-in that we'd want them to come to us with important/heavy issues, but we have trouble doing the same.

    also I remember reading something in the HRC coming out pamphlet that the biggest obstacle to coming out is ourselves. I don't think that's always true necessarily (what if you're in ROTC, or in a location where coming out could be dangerous?), but I think it has a lot of truth. thanks for such a good reminder #2.

  2. Hey # 2,

    While I've never gone through the coming out process as an LGBT-identified person, I had the same kind of struggle with coming out as an ally early on in high school. I just didn't want to be that "fag hag" or something of equal magnitude. I was so afraid that not only my parents (because I'm a first-generation immigrant) but also my friends would judge and belittle my decision.

    Anywho, I am so happy that you found help at the LGBT center, because there have been many who either 1. Can't find it or 2. Are too embarrassed to be associated with it. Don't lament too much about the people that you missed out on first semester, we're all still there.

    Personally, all I can hope for is that I know you, even in some little way. You sound absolutely wonderful.