Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks or hate speech. Feel free to submit your thoughts and questions :)
I think it's safe to say that Nick Altemose is the busiest person I know. When he isn't busy being among the top 1 most handsome students at this school, he's, like, in a lab FINISHING THE HUMAN GENOME OR SOMETHING. Needless to say, when I get an email from him, I'm not going to ignore it, and I'm going to let as many people as possible know.
The story here is not the actual body of his email (bringing to my attention this really interesting piece from The Advocate that evaluates how The Movement should adapt now that We are the Moral Majority in the country (in 2010 the number of Americans who support marriage equality crossed the 50% mark). The use of extreme and militant tactics may now be not only antiquated, but counter productive. Says the author, "To the public, a shrill, aggressive majority appears bullying and menacing, not plucky and righteous. Worst of all, it looks oppressive. Oppressive? Gays as oppressor? Am I kidding?" (He is not kidding.) Oh snap! This is something that is extremely applicable to us as a group of college-aged community activists. Is a mass flier campaign the best way to further The Cause? Should we be doing flash mobs and such? Scarier yet, are we hurting our interests? Maybe. Maybe not! But maybe! [Insert embedded video of the first time we see the Frozen Banana Stand (which has so much money in it! by the way) in the pilot of Arrested Development #obscurereferences #hiari!] So yeah. Read this article, Everyone. (It may inform how you respond to a couple of our anonymous posts below.)) but that he signed it "Yours, Nick." In your face, Everyone Who Isn't Me!
In other news, tonight is the last discussion group of the semester. Details are on the blog here and the facebook event is here. The topic of the discussion tonight is sexism within the LGBT community, which should prove to be, uh, interesting to say the least. Everyone's welcome! Bring a friend.
Anyhow! Anonymous posts for the week, yo.
I wonder if the people who put up the "Got Privilege?" Fliers on Tuesday November 16 in Few Quad thought about how they were infringing on the privilege of other students to have their fliers displayed and not covered up by an inordinate number of copies of the same two fliers. If you want to be treated with respect in getting your message across, don’t monopolize the bulletin boards.
The fact that someone just walked my room (which has a flag hanging from it) and said "Burn that flag!" makes me really sad. I wish that people would be more respectful of others people's ways of life, and wouldn't judge people because they are 'different' or the 'other.'
Let's talk for a minute about sexism. Heterosexism, that is. The idea that being heterosexual is right, is better. I don’t think I have to tell all of you that that’s complete and utter crap. Being straight does not make you a better person than anyone else on the planet. We can all agree on that, right?
So let’s talk for a minute about homosexism. Yes, Microsoft Word, I know it’s not a real word. Probably because most of the time I feel like I’m the only person who sees it. Perhaps that’s because I, as a loud proud straight ally, spend the vast majority of my life with my LGBTQ friends. And I love you all, I really do. But I just want to put out there that sometimes you make me feel bad for being straight.
I just want to scream, “I can’t help it! I didn’t choose this! There’s nothing wrong with me!”
Instead I sit there while you complain about how annoying it is when straight couples cuddle on the Plaza. I ask you if it would bother you if a gay couple were to do the same thing. “No,” you say, “that’s different.”
How is it different? How are you different from those homophobic people you spend so much time vilifying? Why is it okay for you to get upset when I talk about some guy I have a crush on, okay for you to treat me like some silly frivolous little straight girl not realizing how fantastic it is to live a life of straight privilege? I would never look at you at the end of a movie and say “why wasn’t that about straight people” they way you ask me why it wasn’t about two women.
All I’m asking is that you practice what you preach: tolerance. I understand that you want a place where you feel like you can speak freely about your sexuality, and not feel as if you’re judged for it. And I’m perfectly content listening to you talk about LGBTQ issues while you hold hands with your same-sex lover. I just wish that you’d be okay with me having a conversation with you about the trials and tribulations of trying to find a boyfriend. I am lucky in that I know the majority of the world automatically accepts my sexuality. But you are my best friends, and I need you to accept my sexuality too. Let’s put the equals back in “Love equals Love.”
I read in a psych book once that the average gay male is indistinguishable from most straight men and that the super feminine stereotype comes from the fact those with a feminine disposition are more visible to the general populace. I'd like to add a disclaimer that I have no qualms with those that live their lives in a more fabulous manner and believe that they're more "manly" than those who would judge them because they have the strength to wear their identity with pride.
Sometimes I feel a little alienated. I enjoy frizz with my bros, video games, weed, and other men. Yet, sometimes I feel like these qualities don't exactly mesh with the visible gay community (minus the liking other men part). The most frustrating aspect is that I know for a fact (thanks, psych textbook) that there are others like me, but they're invisible/indistinguishable too. While I think the Center (and this blog) is awesome, I kinda feel like I couldn't just walk in there and start up a conversation about Halo: Reach. I wonder if it's a symptom of the fact that it's harder for the "ninja gay" kids to be "out" or if they're worried about the rainbows and Lady Gaga music stereotypically associated with the visible gay community. Either way, it's super dooper frustrating.