November 3, 2010

The Pinhook and The Flowergirl

"It's supposedly super queer!"

I wasn't sure what to expect, but, feeling spontaneous, I accepted my friend's offer to venture to The Pinhook in downtown Durham. I'm glad I did.

One of the headlines that night at The Pinhook was the band of the partner of a female friend of mine. I have always been a fan of live, original music, but this particular performance hit me in a very special way.

The night began with a band which already seemed to have pleased the crowd fairly well (I recall them singing about corpses in some body of water...). Eventually, my friend's partner took the stage. After a few songs in the set, she dedicated a song, "The Flowergirl," to her partner in the crowd. I felt myself getting excited.

I saw everyone else getting excited, too.

The band began to play, and I immediately sensed a connection between the two: the eye contact, the smiles, and the general happiness. Through all of these, they were saying so much more to each other than the story told in the lyrics of the song.

The crowd adored it. There was such a strong presence of acceptance and embrace in the room. That was the first time I had ever experienced something like that. A woman was singing to her lover, another woman, and no one thought twice about it. It was a celebration of love that may not have been so celebrated just a short time ago.

I couldn't stop smiling.

To those two: Thank you for your love.


  1. ryan, you are fantastic. please keep writing for the blog. your posts make me smile.

  2. Thank you so so so much for coming. The song is actually called Firestorm, but it was inspired by a home video of me as a flower girl.

  3. I love that you're writing about Durham venues and queer-friendly local spots on the blog. =)

  4. Also, you're amazing. I'm glad you shared that night with a bunch of Dukies and Durhamites. It's great that you're active on the blog and in the community. It's a big step to get off campus and I'm so happy you enjoyed yourself.

  5. Yes! It was incredible. I haven't told either of them, but seeing their connection, and all the energy and passion between them during the show made me realize that I have yet to each the level of intensity I want in my own relationships. so great to see =)

  6. You are RAD for making it out to Pinhook first semester of your freshman year.


  7. Hey! Somehow this got back to me, and I book for the Pinhook. Thanks for showing up and rocking out with us. In the spirit of it all, we want as mixed of a crowd we can get. Durhamites and Duke, queer and not necessarily :), shows and dance parties, line steppers and trivia goers. Thanks for supporting the locals and spreading the good work. Yes!!