January 30, 2012

Anonymous Posts (1.23.12-1.30.12)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

Hey all--It was a crazy busy week around campus and sort of slow here on the blog. Please accept my apologies. We've got another great week ahead of us: Man to Man and Ally Training are on Tuesday; BDU is meeting on Wednesday; on Thursday, Jewish Life at Duke is bringing the first openly gay Rabbinical student at the largest Conservative seminary; BDU is sponsoring a workshop on dating in a small community; and Sunday night is the first Athletes United of the semester.

Maybe most importantly, Duke Women's Basketball is playing UCONN TONIGHT at 7pm in Cameron. The team has some awesome AthleteAlly stuff planned, so if for no other reason than their support of Our Community, sure to come out and show them your support.

Duke Center for Civic Engagement is featuring Amendment 1 all this week--check out their facebook page and weigh in on the discussions.

This meme is sort of cool.

Also of note, a heated debate has started after Cynthia Nixon (Sex and the City's "Miranda") told an interviewer, that for her, being gay "is a choice." What does that mean for The Movement?

Now, notes from OFC (Our Future Community)!!

I'm a current high school senior, and an aspiring Blue Devil. Nothing would please me more than to get an acceptance letter this April. I've been questioning my sexuality for a VERY VERY VERY long time, and I feel as if I have gotten to the point where I'm pretty sure that I am gay. Even though no one knows this, my friends and family know that I am a staunch liberal, and they always tell me that Duke is "too Conservative" for my taste. This blog has totally proved them wrong. I used to be very concerned about how I would be treated at Duke, but now I couldn't possibly be more confident that Duke is the place for me. This blog offers so much insight into LGBTQ life at Duke and has also empowered me during my struggle with discovering who I am. So I guess this is a "thank you" post. Hopefully that big, fat acceptance packet will be sitting in my mailbox in a few months, and maybe I'll even be a blogger for BDU one day! Haha! Go Blue Devils!!!

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over breaks and throughout the school year. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


  1. Posts like these are why I write for this blog. Hopefully everything works out okay for you and we'll see you on campus in the fall.

  2. Hey there future friend!

    A "me too" story for you: I was also told Duke was too conservative for me by parents/friends/myself...and now I'm friends with a whole bunch of brilliant, progressive people who constantly make me think harder, smile more brightly, and engage more deeply with life.

    And even though I have days where I wish I could run off to the crunchy-granola-school world somewhere in the woods of New England, I've found a good balance here. And I do know people (read: good friends) who don't fit the super-duper-progressive mold, and I've found that having friends with mixed politics has been a lot more ideologically stimulating/productive than being somewhere where most folks agree on everything.

    Hope to see you in the fall! Let us know if you have questions! Good luck!


  3. Flee, little gay! Get out while you still can. Bright spots like BDU, with its amazing people, do not change the fact that Duke is not a welcoming campus. Homophobia, misogyny, and classism are rampant here. You can find equal academics and a better atmosphere at any number of other great schools.

    Fellow readers, I am not trying to diminish our struggles or diss the spaces we have made for ourselves. But except for those few of us who relish fighting the good fight every day of the week, I don't think this place is a good fit.

  4. Dear 2:31,

    I completely disagree. I have found a loving, open community at Duke and haven't experienced any homophobia directed towards me or my LGBT friends. Let this student judge for himself whether or not Duke fits.