January 23, 2012

Anonymous Posts (1.17.12-1.22.12)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

The Bar held a welcome back night for students on Friday, and I hear it was poppin. This week is also going to be POPPIN on campus. Are you ready!?

Hudson Taylor, founder of Athlete Ally, is speaking TODAY at 5:30pm. Women Loving Women (Tu, 6-8pm) and Spectrum (TH, 6-7pm) are also meeting this week!

ALSO BDU is working on an awesome new campaign that aims to bring visibility to and correct misconceptions around bisexuality and questioning. If you're interested in being pictured in a poster (you'll get to choose what it says), sign up here. We need people who identify as bi, questioning and ally!

Now, notes from OC!


The last time I made the mistake of telling a straight girl I liked her, things got horrible. I will always have the story of how _____, that one straight girl, broke my heart. This time I was afraid of the same thing happening if a straight girl at Duke finds out I like her. Recently I told her I liked her and then came out to her a couple days later. She essentially rejected me, but it was probably the most awesome rejection I've ever gotten. She didn't flat out say no to me, she just told me about how she's dated girls before and it just wasn't for her and then told me how she's sorry she flirts with me a lot but that's her personality. It feels good to finally be out to one person at Duke. Now I have someone to talk to, but I just wish I'd stop falling for these dang straight girls all the time!

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over breaks and throughout the school year. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).


  1. Author of #3: Excellent, excellent post. Would you ever consider becoming a writer for the bdu blog? I think you'd be great!

  2. #3: get enough hopeless and persistent crushes on straight guys and you too, will learn the hard way to assume that straight-seeming guys are straight.

  3. Really powerful post #3. A lot of what you said resonates with me (and I'm sure many others in the community), so thank you for having the courage to write it.

  4. I'm glad you all enjoyed my post. I look forward to contributing more in the future, as an anonymous poster or otherwise. As always, thanks for the great, insightful writing everywhere else on BDU

  5. #2 - Ahahaha. we talked about this at Women Loving Women last time! I wonder if you were able to make it-if not, hope maybe you can make the next one. (you can always email me at mrw22@duke.edu to get on the listserv, if you'd like to be.)

    also, there's that L-Word quote: "everyone's straight before they're not." who knows how true that is, but it always makes me smile.