December 12, 2011

Anonymous Posts (12.5.11-12.12.11)

Every week, we collect anonymous entries sent in using the link on our sidebar and post them all on Monday. We post anything as long as it doesn't contain personal attacks, hate speech, or express or insinuate that one is at risk for hurting themselves or someone else. Please read this for an explanation of this policy and seek help if your or a friend find yourself in that position. With those exceptions aside, please feel free to submit your thoughts and questions. :)

Hey y'all,

Last week was busy, but somehow I feel like this week will manage to be even busier for most people. When you feel like procrastinating, though, be sure to fill out the Center's survey! Your voice will help to shape LGBTQA life on campus for many years to come by directly affecting how the new Center gets formed.

If you haven't read it yet, check out Jenn's reflection on coming out to her parents.

I hope that everybody has a wonderful winter break, but here at the Blue Devils United Blog we know that that isn't always the case. There can be a lot of anxieties about going home, which may mean going back in the closet or coming out to family and friends or any number of things. Please reach out to the resources at the bottom if you find yourself in a position where you need support.

We're a community and we're here to support each other, so keep checking the blog for new content and be sure to keep up with each other, as well.

Now, notes from OC!

How many people come to WLW? I want to go but I'm afraid I'll be the awkward new comer joining a group of 5 really close friends or something.

Any advice for someone who keeps falling for straight women?

I'm scared to go to the center cuz I've never hung out with other queer women before...what if I don't fit in?

Please remember that there are a number of resources available on campus and in the local community. These resources are available over breaks and throughout the school year. If you or a friend are experiencing thoughts or urges to harm yourself or somebody else, please reach out to the following resources: In an emergency, please don't hesitate to call CAPS at any time, including "after hours" at (919) 966-3820. Ask to speak to the advice nurse and tell them you are a Duke student. You may also call the Trevor Project, a national hotline specifically for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and questioning youth (college students included). Their number is 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386).

1 comment:

  1. so many womyn-centered topics! :D

    #1! Hey! So I coordinate WLW, so just to preface all of this, I hope if you'd like to ask more questions about WLW that you feel comfortable emailing or facebooking me: I know when I first tried coming to WLW I needed to ask the coordinator some anonymous questions beforehand to feel comfortable going. (You can also always email Janie is that's more comfortable for you with more questions:

    And to answer your question-actually, we have a big group that is really welcoming/opening to new people, because, well, often we are full of new people! Especially in January at the start of a new semester, we're guaranteed to have tons of new faces. Even this past WLW on Sunday (last night) we had a fair number of new people. And this past time we had about 30 people...but we've had up to 45 the time before really just varies! We're really excited and encouraged by the incredible women that all come to the group, and again, feel free to ask more questions about WLW. :D

    2. One friend told me once..(when the same thing happened to me)..."you might just have to decide that's your new bottom line". I kept falling for straight (and not questioning) women, and it was ultimately heartbreaking for reasons outside my control. I thought her advice was pretty good. But of course, the other side of things is that some queer women identify as straight before and/or *while/after* they date other women. So it's really a complex issue...there's definitely not a solid "answer" to this question.

    3. Hey #3! This entire comment probably seems soo biased right now-but do you think WLW could be comfortable for you? I know I coordinate it so again it's my bias, but it's just women and a lot of times there are new women at each meeting, so not only would you be with other new women perhaps similar to yourself, but the group is also confidential, so if confidentiality is something you're looking for, that's always an option with WLW. Also we've shown movies this semester which is a cool/relaxed environment where there's less dialogue and more hanging out. (Email me, see above, to get on the confidential listserv for either of those, or check the blog!)

    Also, our community is SO diverse! It's amazing, really! So it's hard to say if you'd "fit" in because with the women's community here, I don't know if there's exactly any specific single thing that we all share in common. I know I had a similar fear when I went to the Center-I think I had visions of the L-Word crew or something and how I couldn't possibly fit into something like that. But when I eventually came I found the community that has been the most positive force/group in my entire Duke career, and I feel very lucky to have found that.

    If you're comfortable, I hope you decide to stop by! Good luck!